Learning is best done little and often.
Notes I've taken from a daylong at Spirit Rock on Healing Trauma.
Five factors of Post Traumatic Growth:
1. Awareness and acceptance of reality
2. Resourcing with people
3. Resourcing with the positive
4. Create a coherent narrative...
This is what happened, these are the consequences.
These were the resources, practices, tools and coping strategies I used.
This is what I now appreciate about myself and life because of the event.
These were the lessons I learned, growth I experienced and positives found.
5. Appreciating the new life because of what was learned through recovery
When we experience trauma, we leave our body.
Feeling safe in the body is key to healing trauma.
To calm the body:
Exercise is one of the best things you can do, get into movement to get out of feeling stuck.
We want to activate the nervous system without fear so we can be active in the world. Dance, go to work, clean the house, walk... get the body into action.
When working with fearful, disassociated person, be grounded, safe and relaxed. This invites them to be the same and creates a neural synchronicity between us which helps them feel safe and calm enough to get back into their body.
The body doesn't know the difference between real and imagined so use the power of imagination. Think of others caring for and loving us, this rewires the brain and nervous system to feel safe.
People in trauma need safe refuges and resources.
Reaching out to safe, supportive people who KNOW we are healing and capable of health and wholeness.
People who can hold space without an agenda for as long as it takes.
Physical contact is also important. Every warm, safe, comforting touch releases oxytocin, the bonding, soothing and trusting hormone.
Tell your story to those who have earned the right to hear it. ~Brene Browne
Answer the question, how did I cope in previous hard times? Focus on coping, what has helped, what might work, who can help now?
Trauma blows your identity apart. After going through it, you come out the other side with a greater sense of competence, purpose, meaning and an expanded sense of self.
We reframe the story from victim to victorious. We lived through it and are bigger as a result.
Use writing, talking, visualization and sharing with others to maximize neural integration... different parts of the brain are used for each type of processing.
In re-writing these notes, reading them out loud and sharing my own personal experiences with others, I integrate them into my nervous system and strengthen resilience and safety in my body. My body learns to trust everything is OK. If something bad happens, I will be just fine. I know how to cope. No need to live in fear.
Everything is here to teach, grow and expand me. I am safe.