If you are familiar or new to The Work of Byron Katie, you have likely heard of Turn Arounds. So what are they and what are they good for?
A turn around is very simply, the exact opposite statement of a stressful thought you are working with.
Doing The Work of Byron Katie is a very practical and powerful way of working with stressful thoughts. There are just four questions and the Turn Arounds.
We have many stressful thoughts, often thinking other people and situations are the cause of our stress but actually we are upset by our interpretation of the situation and how something or someone "should" be different.
When thinking of someone that bothers us, we get upset and go over all the "bad" and "wrong" things they do in our minds. We could ruminate for hours, days, weeks or years. Feeling anything from mild annoyance to rage and hatred when thinking of them.
If you are upset with someone, you might have the thought "he disrespected me." To do The Work on this thought, you would go back to the situation where you got upset and ask the four questions then do Turn Arounds on the stressful thought "he disrespected me."
For the purpose of this article I will skip the four questions of The Work and focus on the Turn Arounds.
So again, we have the stressful thought "He disrespected me."
Turning this around to the exact opposite would be the following...
Turn Around #1. He did not disrespect me.
Turn Around #2. I disrespected him.
Turn Around #3. I disrespected me.
So that's it. A Turn Around is simply the exact opposite of a stressful belief. And once you have these Turn Arounds, you look for examples of where they are true.
You would go back to that situation where you believed "he disrespected me," and see how is it true or truer that "he did not disrespect me?" This may take some time. Sit with this question until an answer arises. If an answer comes, then look for another and once you found a second example, look for a third where "he did not disrespect me." Keep going if you can find more.
Once you have found at least three solid and true examples of the Turn Around "He did not disrespect me," you can look for three examples of the next turn around.
That's all there is to it. When you have a stressful thought, question it (do The Work with the four questions) then turn it around. Find at least three examples of the opposite.
All this being said, doing The Work of Byron Katie involves asking the four questions first. In no way does The Work suggest you dismiss what your thinking and replace it with different or opposite thoughts. The turn arounds are the last step in the process of The Work.